Inner Child blog, we will explore the top interesting facts about healing the inner child. As children growing up, we have faced many problems, trauma, and abuse. That energy is stored in our minds and impacts our day-to-day lives. As we are unaware of it, we struggle to get what we want. The problems we are facing today and the obstacles to achieving our goals are because of childhood imprints. We are going to see how this process works and how we can make our lives better by applying the process of healing the inner child to ourselves. We can see more about it below.
Why is it Important
As children, we need love, care, affection, and acceptance from our parents. We long for these deeply, but unfortunately, not everyone receives the love they truly desire. 96% of people in the world carry a wounded heart — they didn’t receive the love they needed as children, and many have learned to hide behind a false self. By learning and applying this method, we can begin to heal those wounds. As we clear the inner obstacles, we open ourselves to receive the love we’ve been longing for all along.
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Nurturing Your Inner Child
Mother Bonding
The newborn child needs their mother’s love unconditionally as it’s very essential for the growth of the child. It needs their Mother’s Love and care for at least a minimum of (0-9 months). As the mother wants to show love by touching the child, feeding them, and maintaining eye contact with the child, the very best way to nurture a child by a mother is touch…! Yes, Touch is the only way a child gets close to his mother.
In a study they ran a test on 2 children by keeping them in separate rooms A & B, the child in room A would get touched and Rocking by his mother and get all the love and needs from his mother By that same time The child in Room B has no physical contact and touch with the mother as time passes the child in room B get sick and later it has diarrhea but the child in Room A that was in contact with his mother stays happy and healthy, This study shows the importance of the mother in the early stage of growth. If the child needs to be healthy, it should grow in the presence of Their mother.
Father Bonding
After the Mother-bonding stage, the child gets into a relationship with the father. This stage lasts from (9-18 months) of the child, the father can nourish the child by Taking care of it and Doing the stuff that the baby needs like Changing a diaper, Bathing, Usually baby likes to sleep with their dad during this stage and people who won’t get fulfilled at this stage can develop a critical behavior, gossiping, fear of intimacy, Struggle to face the society, and will hurt people whom they love the most. In the absence of their father, an Uncle or a Mother’s Brother can substitute father’s place.
Family Bonding
This is the stage where the child enters the family circle and they are being fulfilled by their family member. People who are good at connecting with their family members will create a happy environment with the people they surround themselves with. This stage will last from 18 months – 3 Years. Every child will pass through all the stages, and the one who is fulfilled by all the things will shine bright and will be the happy one.
Neighborhood Bonding
This is the stage where the child will interact with people around the world. This stage will happen from 3 – 6 Years. In this stage, they will be influenced by the people who are very much related to them whom they identify strongly with. The Things they are learning from this stage will last till their lifetime. The early stage of childhood is very powerful as it has more to do with the Rest of their life.
Behaviors
As we see earlier the wounds that we got in our childhood are not only wounds but also that will reflect our present life too, Our Thoughts, Behaviour, and other things are based on these wounds and the things we received as a child in our Early days, in the Western country they have surveyed from the child they have been following up for nearly 50 Years, This is an example of how our childhood will impact on our Present life a 20 child were chosen and they were made to sleep in a separate room separated from their parent.
By closely observing them after a couple of years they observe that the children sleep with their parents become a successful person in their academics and their Professional life by the same time people who Did’nt sleep with their parents become a social evil and a thread to the people. It’s just a small thing we think, but a tiny thing can make a great impact on people’s lives.
This is just a sample from the experiment People who’s Need are not fulfilled, There any many types of behaviour that can be caused by the Woundedness, Like codependency, offender behaviour, narcissist personality, trust issues, acting out\acting in behaviour, Magical believes, intimacy dysfunction, Non-discipline behaviour, Addictive compulsive disorder. These are some Types of behavior that can impact our Life.
Love Tank
It Sounds New to us, but this is the Main reason for attracting our Partner. This is called a Love Tank. It is filled based on the love and wounds we received in our childhood days. We are attracted to a partner who will have the same characteristics as our parents have. There is a real-life story that will make us understand better. Rahul has divorced parents. He lived with his mother from a very young age, but due to his mother’s Busy business schedule, she couldn’t take care of her son. He was under a caretaker, and he could hardly see his mother’s face.
After Getting a job he decided to find a partner who would take care of him, He Got sick and hospitalized for 1 week no one took care of him, a peon in his office came and took care of him every second, He fell in love with the girl and he gives a marriage proposal, they got married and he was dreaming that he will Receive all the love he longing for but There is a twist that When he came from office and sharing all the things She was into the phone and nodding her head by not looking at his face, day by day she is not responding properly she went to her Mother’s house and stay for nearly weeks and months, later she realized she is also like her mother this is called love tank we will attract a partner who has the same behavior.
If we increase our love tank capacity, we will find a partner with a higher level of Love. For Example, if we have a 50% love tank, we will attract a person who will have the same level of love (50%). If we have 90%, we will attract a person who has 90%. If we heal our inner wounds, we will find a person with High love.
The Mud Buddha
This was a real story In 1957, There was a Mud Buddha statue in Thailand It was 14 feet height and it was in a small temple as it’s a very ancient thing for them they decided to re-built the temple and the Process of moving the mud buddha statue was handed over to a private company in a contract basis, Once they move the Statute to a Traveller They Sky become cloudy and the rain starts to pour, the manager of the contract tried to protect the mud buddha from the rain he Tried to cover it with giant size tarpaulin. But despite heavy rain and wind, they can’t cover the statue fully, and at the end of one side, a Yellow Colour Pop-up. Later, they discovered that it was a 2500 kg Gold Buddha…! During the War between Thailand and Burma, The People in Thailand decided to safeguard Buddha by covering it with Mud. After the war, the Burmese were not interested in shifting this mud Buddha, for 200 Years they saved this Buddha in the form of mud.
Like this, only we don’t know the value of ourselves. We are born like a gold Buddha, but The Problem, abuse, and our Unfulfilled needs are covered up, and we don’t know the value of ourselves. Like the Rain that has shown the true potential of the Mud Buddha, we also have to get rid of all the unnecessary trauma and problems that stop us from living the Life we want. Everything we experience in our lives is a reflection of the imprints in our early lives. No matter how much we want things to happen in our lives, the Imprint in our lives is the only thing that drags us to the Destination.
Therapy for the Emotions
All the emotions we have faced during our childhood have been stored in our bodies. We have to release to get rid of those toxic things. Interestingly those emotions also have an impact on the disease we are having nowadays, we have to learn how to release our emotions properly, every emotion has a connection with our body parts, Anger has a connection with the liver, and if we have unprocessed emotion of anger it will get stored in our liver and it will affect it, If we have fear it will be stored in our kidney like that so we have to release that emotion properly.
Emotion has to flow through our Body, whether it’s positive or negative. If the energy gets stored in our body, it will affect us. Fear is the mother of all emotions. We have to identify our emotions first, and we have to acknowledge that we have feelings, and we have to be intentional that we are ready to release and not want that emotion. If we have to release every emotion differently way If we have fear we have to release it by shivering, If we have anger the suggested way is we have to write it down on paper to release it and we have to destroy the paper, if we have sad emotions we have to cry and release it. These are all the best ways that will work for us. As children, we all do this thing unconsciously and release all the emotions, but as adults, we are covering up our emotions and suppressing them.
Reclaiming Our Inner Child
Once we have completed Processing our emotions we have to reclaim ourselves This Is the Core part of this process we have to Talk with our inner child and reclaim ourselves by Giving a nourishing Message in this we have to Imagine ourselves in a child Version we can also use Mirror, Pillow, Childhood Picture, teddy bear in this process. We have to Imagine Things as our Inner child and we have to Talk with those things we have to be in a parent state, As our inner child is wounded we have to First create trust between child-Parent So the process will be easy If the child is not comfortable with you you will not communicate with the child and it will make the process hard.
So what are the Nourishing Message we have to say to that inner child, we have to say a word that you longed to hear in your childhood days, It may be a simple Appreciation or Assurance that I’m there for you, I love you, I accept the way you are, These are all the some of the example that a child wants to hear. So as an adult, you have to say that to the inner child, it will reprogram the mind, and it will heal the wounds. Yet this is a simple but effective proven way to heal our inner child and its imprint.
Conclusion
Here we have seen what the healing the inner child and Its’s important, How can it impact our life, what are the emotions and how we can process it finally we have seen the core part of the therapy on how to heal and deal with our inner child, If we keep doing this, it could change our lives. This Content was Written by Jeffry